We have all heard, “Your presence is a present to the world” and yet for many of us we may not see it that way. This thought process of finding positive in our minds and actually thinking that what we do and say does not only help others in the world, but does begin to retrain and change our brain.
This can be a very hard struggle for some people because of prior life experiences or traumas and even current life experiences some are enduring. The awareness alone to be able to think of positive before negative, is a gift in itself, given to each of us. This awareness comes from deep inside someone wanting change but may not know how to create the positive in their minds and life. It may come from our experiences and the life struggles of others that we witness. It may come from a religious or spiritual guidance and it may just come from within ourselves. Reframing, this has been a tool I have been using for many years to help myself stay positive and see the glass half full. I am not sure where it came from, quite possibly from my own childhood negative experiences and quite possibly the positive ones as well. What I began to understand and became aware of as I grew older is that my presence is a present to my children and this might have been the original reason I stay focused on the positive. Having children might have just been the reason for the conscious change in this thought process and allow me to share this with not just my children but others. What I think and say reflects upon my children’s own developing inner sense of positive awareness. When they listen to my positive, supporting and inspiring words or thoughts, or even when they listen to me in feeling angered and triggered, in the end I hope what they immediately think of is the positive and not the negative of Mom just being a real and sensitive person. Instead, I hope they hear, you are unique, you are one of a kind, it's your life be the best you can be, be what you want your life to be to be no matter how old you are, one day at a time, trust the process, be confident but humble, don't judge, help others, forgive especially yourself, count your blessings not your troubles, you’ll make it through whatever comes along, within you are so many answers, be strong, be courageous, you can do it and most of all, I love you.
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Life is like an ongoing effort to balance the teeter totter but sometimes the trust needed for this can have many lifelong lingering struggles. As a child I remember walking over to the teeter tooter at the playground, standing there, looking down at the seat that sits fully supported on the ground and realizing I need to trust someone else to enjoy this playground toy that was supposed to be fun.
Trust, as a child I am not sure I fully understood this and not knowing what this was still helped me feel like I needed to hope someone else will not hurt me. Putting trust into this other child who runs over to say they want to sit on the other side and have fun with me was either a fun experience or one that taught me my first lesson that maybe others might intentionally or unintentionally hurt me. So, as the teeter totter ride begins, we go up, and we go down, and fearing the ride up will not hurt or more importantly make me lose my balance and fall to the ground, trusting the other child to balance me and not hurt me was the first experience of learning that I need to trust who I let play with me on not just this playground but in my entire playground of my childhood life. This trust was a lesson learned quickly as the other child lets their end hit the ground hard causing much more fear and pain and now I am hanging in the air fearful that the child I trusted won’t just get off and let me fall to the ground while in my seat. How many times do we continue to trust another child to not cause us fear of trusting and causing us to avoid this fun playground toy? As I grew up and struggled with trust not only of a child but also now of adults, I struggled with relying on others to keep me balanced and not hurt me. Now at my age I have lots of apprehension, fear that others are not balancing me to keep me safe and more importantly, I am recognizing my trigger of not trusting others and how I feel when I don’t feel I can trust them and they might hurt me. Understanding this trigger, and more importantly my sensitivity, has allowed me to protect myself when I feel this hidden feeling and understand how I react. My reactions are sometimes more profound that I was triggered when I don’t always recognize it when it happens. So now, I trust myself, my intuitiveness and I balance who and what I get involved with either in my personal or professional life. Either way, I avoid the chance of being hurt and now I trust ‘me’ even more to protect me in this huge adult playground of life. |
Linda MeyerHi my name is Linda and I created The Support Place Where HOPE Lives to offer human to human - heart to heart support to those who are looking for non clinical inspirational, motivational guidance. This blog has been created to share with others what has inspired and guided me through some life struggles. I am married to my teenage sweetheart and we have 7 beautiful children ages 14-28. My journey which I believe has been a spiritual one that I did not recognize at first, is one that I hope inspires not only my family but for others who are looking for some HOPE to work through your own life journey. Archives
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