This can be a very hard struggle for some people because of prior life experiences or traumas and even current life experiences some are enduring. The awareness alone to be able to think of positive before negative, is a gift in itself, given to each of us.
This awareness comes from deep inside someone wanting change but may not know how to create the positive in their minds and life. It may come from our experiences and the life struggles of others that we witness. It may come from a religious or spiritual guidance and it may just come from within ourselves.
Reframing, this has been a tool I have been using for many years to help myself stay positive and see the glass half full. I am not sure where it came from, quite possibly from my own childhood negative experiences and quite possibly the positive ones as well.
What I began to understand and became aware of as I grew older is that my presence is a present to my children and this might have been the original reason I stay focused on the positive. Having children might have just been the reason for the conscious change in this thought process and allow me to share this with not just my children but others.
What I think and say reflects upon my children’s own developing inner sense of positive awareness. When they listen to my positive, supporting and inspiring words or thoughts, or even when they listen to me in feeling angered and triggered, in the end I hope what they immediately think of is the positive and not the negative of Mom just being a real and sensitive person.
Instead, I hope they hear, you are unique, you are one of a kind, it's your life be the best you can be, be what you want your life to be to be no matter how old you are, one day at a time, trust the process, be confident but humble, don't judge, help others, forgive especially yourself, count your blessings not your troubles, you’ll make it through whatever comes along, within you are so many answers, be strong, be courageous, you can do it and most of all, I love you.